Rhiannon’s Birth Story

Niamh Johanna was born on Mother’s Day night in what can only be described as an empowering induced labour

Thom (my partner) made the room into a safe haven: dimmed lights, LED candles, fairy lights and an iPod dock for my HypnoBirthing App. I also used Clary Sage essential oil.

My waters were broken but nothing really started to happen until I spoke to Noah (my four year old). He said ‘I love you Mummy, has Bibit come out yet?‘. This gave me a huge burst of love and encouraged some surges to flow intermittently. As things were slow, I was hooked up to a drip at a low dose which was enough to nudge my body into taking over with it’s own supply of oxytocin. The surges then became regular.

I got into my ‘zone’ with the App and Thom breathing with me, by my side. 

Things started to ramp up a little so I leant against the bed and used gas and air whilst rhythmically rocking on a birth ball, breathing slowly and steadily.

Then, things got very intense, very quickly: enormous surges came, each one riding on top of each other with no respite and cruelly the image of my (own) mum on her deathbed popped into my head (Rhiannon tragically and suddenly lost her mum during her pregnancy). It was a loud memory. I found it all too intense and I lacked the ability to re-focus. I found myself making primal and guttural noises which I think was my way of processing raw grief combined with bringing Niamh into the world. 

A huge juxtaposition! Three female generations in one point across time.

One minute I found myself crying out for an epidural and the next I was feeling an overwhelming urge to push. Shortly after, Niamh was born safely and swiftly into my arms in a split second of primal intensity. Sheer joy and relief filled my heart and body.

She was here, finally and she was safe. A Mother’s Day gift from my Mum!

HOW TO USE THE POWER OF THE MIND TO HAVE THE BIRTH YOU WANT

Affirmation art courtesy of Emily Lewis

‘If you change the way you view birth, the way you birth will change’ – Marie Mongan, the Founder of HypnoBirthing

We are bombarded with negative stories and depictions of pregnancy and birth, from the chaotic births you see on the ever-popular TV series One Born Every Minute to the birth stories (well-intentioned) strangers tell you on the bus.

At some point in your pregnancy journey, it might be worth setting boundaries and limiting the negative input around birth. Why?

One theory in HypnoBirthing is that when you reduce the negative thoughts and emotions around birth you can open space in the mind for positive thoughts to grow. As they start to grow, the negativity naturally subsides. A little like weighing scales–you want them to tip in your favour!

Would you rather feel fearful and anxious about birth, or excited to meet your baby?

Here are three easy tips to limiting the negative input:

  1. Politely duck out of any conversation where birth is being pictured in a negative way ‘I need the toilet’ or even more directly ‘I am trying to focus on positive birth stories at the moment, let’s talk more after I’ve had my baby’.
  2. Avoid watching anything that depicts birth as anything other than the positive, natural and healthy experience that it is. This rules out the aforementioned One Born Every Minute TV series and potentially Call the Midwife (though this one depends on which episode you’re watching).
  3. Instead, read books that will empower you and make you think about how birth can be. Search on YouTube for ‘hypnobirths’ or even ‘orgasmic births’. If you attend a Positive Birth Movement meeting (where new mums talk about their births in a positive light), you will have the added benefit of being surrounded by birth professionals who have seen birth in a beautiful light. Read positive birth stories like those in Spiritual Midwifery by Ina May Gaskin.

Think about the various antenatal courses on offer and pick the one that best suits your preferences for birth

Choose your antenatal and birth preparation courses wisely. Remember: What you think is what you become. For example, if you over-focus on a ventouse delivery or even a c-section, that may end up being the fate of your birth. It is, of course, not that black and white; however, you can give yourself your best chance of having the kind of birth you want if you think about it, visualise it, draw it, dream it, talk about it.

The power of affirmations in preparation for labour and birth

‘Every thought we think is creating our future’ – Louise Hay

In HypnoBirthing, we use positive affirmations, on repeat, to plant positive seeds in the mind. The more we repeat them, the stronger they get. A positive mindset grows from the seeds and the possibility of the birth you want feels more and more real. For example:

  • I feel confident, I feel safe, I feel secure
  • My baby moves gently along in its journey
  • I feel natural anaesthesia flowing through my body
  • My mind is relaxed, my body is relaxed
  • I am prepared to meet whatever turn my birthing takes

We suggest writing these down and putting them in places where you see them regularly, e.g. on the mirror where you brush your teeth, by the kettle.

Some final thoughts

  1. Are you able to make some small changes NOW to limit the negativity you see or hear around birth?
  1. How can you create some healthy boundaries with well-intentioned friends and strangers to opt out of unhelpful conversations?
  1. Are you willing to try using affirmations to help you to focus on the exciting event that birth is?

For more information, see our page on what HypnoBirthing can teach you.

For a free PDF copy of the Birth Affirmations please email us at info@purelypregnant.co.uk.

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